Many of us live in circumstances where we have a high degree of autonomy, yet our days seem to be busy, disjointed and stressful – not entirely the thriving the theory promises.
The problem may be that everyone else is autonomous, too. Just as you want that piece of information when you want it from an external source at a time that suits you, so does everyone else – and a quiet block of deep work is interrupted by requests, notifications and context switching.
Other challenges come with autonomy. You are now responsible for organizational structure, task prioritisation, time management and accountability. And if you're not fantastic at all of those, autonomy can make it easy to procrastinate and choose shallow tasks.
This set of balance issues is straightforward for a Day Crafting Apprentice, redesigning the system around what we do in our days to enable the best of those intrinsic elements whilst fixing some of the challenges (Day Crafting is a lot more besides, in case you think it is just time-management nerdery).
If system fixes are relatively straightforward, autonomy comes with another internal challenge that is harder to remedy—we're not always the wisest and kindest we could be to ourselves. The freedom that autonomy gives us means that we don't take breaks, neglect our self-care, overwork, keep everyone else happy, ignore the boundaries we've wisely set in the past and devalue our future needs.
Would you concede some autonomy to someone else (someone wise, loving, kind and with a perspective that maximises your wellbeing and thriving) if it meant, at times during the day, you were required to act against your immediate mood or feelings and stick to your boundaries; someone who prevented you from overcommitting or neglecting the day-enhancing activities you yearn to practice but rarely do?
I've been fascinated by the concept of a rule-of-life for years. Simply put, it is a set of guidelines that should enable balanced days, mastery and purpose, but I've realised something significant. The effectiveness of a rule-of-life isn't so much the rules but the question of autonomy that classic rule-of-life followers conceded to another – giving up some freedom and self-direction.
Without the presence of this wise and kind guardian, how can you enjoy these benefits? Can you curb your autonomy – even for a day? This is a challenge for those taking Day Crafting beyond the basics.